BBFS. The acronym that any quality sex worker or client never wants to see come up. BBFS: Bare-Back Full Service. Unprotected intercourse. Sex without a condom. The absolute NO of any reasonable person in the CTS community.
And yet, there it was in an email I recently received: BBFS +100. A lady offering unprotected sex to me. That is what I call some scary shit.
Unprotected sex is one of the dark secrets of the Consensual Transactional Sex community. It shouldn’t be. It shouldn’t happen. Period. But it does. It’s out there. And it is a true danger.
Overall, our community is pretty safe when it comes to Sexually Transmitted Disease. They happen, but not nearly as often as outsiders might think. Why? Because we play safe. The truth is, the average member of the CTS community worries about STDs. We know that having multiple sex partners increases our chance of catching something. So we use condoms. And that mitigates the risk substantially. In almost two decades of participating in this world I have never caught anything. Because I have never had unprotected sex with a sex worker. In fact, in my entire life I have only had unprotected sex with three women, and in all of those cases they were women I was in a serious relationship with. We knew and trusted each other.
But there exists in our world a small group of clients who actively seek out unprotected sex. These men (and a few women) do not care about the risks. Or simply do not believe there are any risks. They are willing to endanger themselves and others for the sake of a bit more pleasure. The desire for pleasure is something that anyone in our community understands. I do not find condoms all that comfortable. But I want to be safe, and in the end I receive all the pleasure I truly need.
And there are ladies who know there is an unfortunate market for this service, and they are willing to provide it at an extra cost. Why they re willing to do this I do not know. Is it greed? Is it ignorance of the danger? Is it an attitude of apathy towards danger? I do not know. It is something I don’t understand.
Those who participate in BBFS are a true risk to our community. Their irresponsibility puts others at risk.
And there is a sense that they cannot be trusted. Especially in light of one of the new dangers in our society: “stealthing”.
“Stealthing” is a practice by some men of secretly removing a condom during sex. Most of us in the CTS community are abhorred by this and consider it paramount to rape. It is a vile behavior that goes firmly against the idea of Consensual sex. And it puts people at an increased risk of disease.
There is some good news in all of this. BBFS is considered taboo. Which means that sex workers who offer it are often put on Do Not See (DNS) lists by the clients. The same is true for clients who request it. The blacklists are real. The community does work to self-police against these dangerous behaviors. Like many other men, the moment I see that a sex worker is offering (or known to allow) BBFS, she immediately goes on my NO list. And the community can have a long memory about such things. But the danger is out there.
FOLLOW UP POST: Responses to: “The Darks Side: BBFS”
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