Here is something that sets me apart from the majority of the other men I know in the CTS community: I like it when a lady makes the first contact.
Funny thing, I never thought this would be a controversial concept until last year. Apparently there are many within the CTS community that consider this something of a taboo. When I found this out I was fascinated. Why would guys consider this wrong? After all, it is in keeping with some fairly long standing traditions in sex work. Sex workers have been approaching prospective clients in many settings for, well, as long as there have been sex workers and clients!
But in the online world, this seems to have changed. Thankfully, not all the ladies agree!
I like it. I have a personal preference for strong, confident women. The kind of women who know what they want and actively pursue it. I enjoy being with a woman who feels that she is the right person for me and is not afraid to say so.
Over the past year I became more and more involved with the online CTS community. I came in with my own mannerisms and my own way of communicating. I stood out a bit from a lot of the other men. Some people didn’t like me (and still don’t: Not Fan Mail), but many people came to like me. This is especially true among many of the ladies who are more active online. And it continues today.
I get approached online quite frequently by sex workers who would like to have me as a client. Admittedly, I can be a bit suspicious, since it would be easy enough for law enforcement to approach me in this way. But I do my due diligence to make sure I am communicating with a real sex worker. Most of the ladies who approach me this way have their own fairly notable online presence, so it is easy to confirm who they are.
I really enjoy when these ladies contact me. I like to flirt. I’m not all that good at it, but I like to do it anyway. And it’s easier online. And fun for me. Most of the time these contacts do not lead to any face-to-face meetings. Time and distance are realities we must all deal with. My private life keeps me from playing the game more often than not.
But it remains a joy to have the ladies make contact first. And, when it does lead to a session, they are often amazing times.
In fact, my All Time Favorite provider is a lady who made the first contact. She had read something that I had written online about my dissatisfaction with something and she felt that she could be the cure. And she was right! This single email that she sent me has led to a great friendship and some amazing pleasure that I continually long for. [Thank you Sabrina for being such a confident, wonderful woman!The Goddess Dances (a poem)]
I do not understand why there are so many men who are against being approached this way. Perhaps they do not like such confidence in a woman. Or perhaps the hunt is an important factor for them, and having the lady call first does away with this. Maybe it is a control issue, and they want to be in charge, not the woman.
I really don’t know. But I do know that I have heard many men who say they will automatically reject such an approach. That they refuse to see women who make first contact. That is truly too bad. They are missing out on some of the best sex workers around. A woman who is confident in communication will be confident in the bedroom—at least that has been my experience.
The Internet has given the CTS community a better opportunity to know about each other and evaluate one another than anything in the past, despite the troubles we’ve recently been going through. Clients and sex workers alike have the chance to be able to look through who is out there and decide who is the best match for them. Clients do this all the time. Sex workers should as well.
As I said, I like women who make the first move. They can often be women I would otherwise overlook (such as my ATF). More ladies should use the resources that are available to them to search out the best possible clients for them. And men should be accepting of this and take advantage of it. If a lady wants you, what is bad about that?!
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