How can I best sum up the first 6 months of 2018. Perhaps it is best to quote the great wordsmith, Charles Dickens:
“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, . . .”
Yeah, that about sums it up. That Dickens sure could write.
As for my life as a hobbyist in the world of Consensual Transactional Sex, it has been great and awful. I’ve had some amazing triumphs and some tremendous failures.
2017 had been a great year for me. I became connected with the greater CTS community online and created this alter-ego of “ValleyScott”. I met my All Time Favorite and best friend, Sabrina. I engaged in social events within the community for the first time. I had some awesome sex (and some not-so-awesome sex). I made friends. I was cured of wasting my time and money at Asian massage parlors (thank you again, Sabrina!). It was a great year.
Not this year. I had hoped to start off 2018 with a bang—so to speak—by ringing in the new year with a bit of playtime. Life got in the way of that. But things were looking up when a lady I’d been interested in offered me a wonderful deal on a session a few days later. Had a great time. I figured this was going to be a good year.
Then I was sexually assaulted (The Dark Side). That sucked. I had to take some extended time off to heal. I decided to be open about what happened to me online, and took some (mostly) good-natured ribbing for it. I figured that was just a bad-luck situation and that things would get better. They didn’t.
FOSTA happened instead. This wasn’t good for any of us. Chaos and confusion. An abrupt end to stability. I thought it might be the end of “ValleyScott”. But new sites appeared. Some good, some bad, some just there. I joined many. But I’ve only stuck around a few.
But I met new people. And reconnected with others who I thought I might not find again in all the confusion. Time continued on. I healed.
So it was time to play again. I was nervous about it. Thankfully a good friend took me into her capable hands and took care of me (all puns intended!).
But I was still unhappy. I couldn’t connect with ladies that I wanted to see. Responsibilities in my personal life had led me to sell my business so I could take care of my parents full-time. This meant a lack of time to play. And a little less money to play with. Not that this was much of a problem, since my town had become a bit of a ghost-town after BackPage and NS went down.
And then i made a mistake. A misunderstanding occurred in which I hurt friend’s feelings. I did not intend to, but my words were wrong. I did not communicate well. Thankfully, I was able to fix things. But I caused pain to someone I care about. Sometimes men are every bit as stupid as the sitcoms make us out to be.
After that a series of poor sessions followed, along with several missed connections. I just couldn’t catch a break. Many a man has come into the world of CTS due to an unsatisfying sex life. I was having an unsatisfying sex life IN the CTS world.
June has now ended, and still I have had little to be pleased about in my sex life. A couple of good sessions with ladies I’ve seen before, but nothing very good with any new ladies. Disappointments abounding. And to top it all off, I have not seen my ATF at all this year. No blame, no problems—just an unfortunate reality of time, distance, and busy lives. But still, it is frustrating not to be able to spend time with someone so wonderful. 190 days and counting.
But, it’s not all bad.
As Dickens said: “It was the best of times. . .”
In the last six months I have learned much about myself. And despite the separation from my best friend, I have grown to know her even better. You know you have a true friend when you become closer even when far apart. And I’ve made new friends within the community.
And then there is this blog. The ValleyScott Blog.
I first created this back in 2017. Didn’t know what I was going to do with it. Didn’t do anything with it at all. Not a single post for months. But then FOSTA happened and I lost something.
I had been a rather prolific poster on the site NightShift. It was an outlet for me to express myself. And it was gone. But I had this blog page. So I started writing.
I really didn’t know what to expect. I figured I post a few things now and then. Maybe a couple of people who liked me would read it. When I first shared the link to it on social media it led to a dozen views. I was pretty happy about that. Then a few more. Cool.
I figured that I had my own forum. A nice little place for me. Right and wrong!
This thing has taken on a life of it’s own. I spend a lot of time on it. 20 to 30 hours a week right now. And I’m not getting 12 views a day anymore. 100, 200, 300. Some days are just crazy. And now I have other people who want to be a part of this adventure. Contributors. Supporters. Subscribers. Crazy!
This blog has really become a thing that I am invested in, engrossed by, and committed to. And along the way I’ve become something of a community leader and an activist. How the hell did that happen? Insane! But here I am. And here you are reading this. We’re in this together.
I cannot say that the good has really outweighed the bad. There is a lot about the last six months I wish was different. Outside of the CTS world my life has become complicated and rather depressing. Our little world is an escape from that for me. But it is also becoming a huge part of my life. I didn’t set out to have a career as a blogger and activist, and yet that seems to be where things are heading. Right now, I’d love nothing more than to be able to do this full time. Insane as that sounds, I think it may be possible.
I hope that the rest of 2018 is better. I hope the great stuff like this blog grow greater (I think it will!). And I hope that the bad stuff ends and I can return to having a lot more fun. I know I will see my friend again. I know I will have great sex with amazing women. And I know that life will not be perfect. But it will be better.
Thank you being a part of this adventure I am on. I look forward to where we go next!
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