Seriously. Don’t lie to the ladies. Especially to the ones that you see regularly. And definitely don’t lie to the ones you describe as being your “favorite”.
It is well understood within this community that there are lots of secrets. That is a necessary reality. There have to be secrets. But that is not the same as lying.
We use nicknames, “stage” names, “professional” names, and “handles” so that we don’t have to lie. To the uninitiated that may seem like a contradiction, but it isn’t. It’s a protection that is a part of our sub-culture. But lying is not.
One of the beauties of the world of Consensual Transactional Sex is that we don’t have to talk about or do anything that we don’t want to. We get to be free of so many of those social obligations that often frustrate us in our “real” lives. These are often the things that cause us to tell lies to our friends, family, or coworkers. But we don’t have to do that here. If we don’t want to talk about something, we can just honestly say so. This gives us a freedom to be honest.
So please don’t betray that freedom.
The more involved a person becomes in the CTS community, the more relationships you have. Those relationships can be very close. This is particularly true between clients and sex workers who see each other on a regular basis. They develop a very particular type of friendship. And one of the worst things for those friendships is dishonesty.
This is particularly true when it comes to why you might NOT see a favorite sex worker for a while.
When a client finds a provider that they truly enjoy being with, they can end up seeing them quite often. This is usually a very good thing for both of them. But even when a certain sex worker is a true favorite, a client might yearn for something different. So they go see other sex workers. But this means that the client will end up skipping sessions with their “favorites”.
There is nothing wrong with this. There might be some providers who will get jealous about it, but they shouldn’t. One of the best parts of CTS is the ability to have experiences with many different people. But lying about it is wrong.
If you have to skip sessions with your regular or favorite lady, don’t tell her lies. Don’t say that you can’t afford to see her because of money problems and then go see 2 other women. Don’t say you’re out of town when you are not. Don’t say you are taking a break from playing when you’re going to the next town to see the newest sex worker there. Don’t lie.
If there is an inescapable truth in the relationships between men and women it is this: Women ALWAYS find out. Especially when you post reviews about your latest encounters online. Or when women talk. Or screen new clients. Or any of the myriad other ways they have of finding out.
So don’t lie. Because it pisses them off. And there is no reason to in the first place. Why lie to a sex worker? She isn’t your wife. For the most part, she doesn’t really care much who you have sex with. She KNOWS she is not the only woman. Seriously. Don’t lie.
This is just one example, but it is a valid one because it happens. It shouldn’t, but it does. There is not need for this kind of behavior within our community. We should be free of it. Just as we should be free of jealousy. The clients are all here to have a good time. The providers are all here to earn some money giving us a good time (and hopefully having a good time also). This is a community that gets to be fee of all of the crap in society and life that leads to lying and dishonesty.
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