I’ve been reading your blog for the past couple of months and I really like it. I thought I might share my story with you and your readers:
Hello, my name is Stan, and I have never had sex with an escort. In the past five years I have spent over $100,000 on escorts. But no sex. No intercourse. No blow jobs.
You’re probably thinking I am crazy at this point. I guess most people would think I am crazy. A guy must be nuts to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on escorts and not have sex with them.
But I’m not crazy. Just impotent.
Here is my story:
I spent 22 years in the US Navy. I loved the Navy. I had planned on doing a full 25 years before getting out, but life doesn’t always go according to plan.
I spent most of my career working on jet aircraft. It was challenging work that required a lot of skill, intelligence, and hard work. It was my job to keep those planes flying. This meant I spent a lot of time on aircraft carriers. Loved it. I loved traveling all over the world. I loved being on board the biggest, baddest warships that man had ever made. As my career progressed I loved the respect that I was shown. While I was never an officer, the pilots in the squadrons I served in came to respect me. They knew I would keep their planes in top condition. They knew I had their back.
I got married young—at 19—and we had 3 kids. Those pilots of mine were always very generous to my kids at Christmas and birthdays. The Navy can be an amazing family, and it was for me. I had a career I loved, a wife I loved, kids I loved. A life I loved.
Then it all came to end.
We had just returned from a deployment in the Middle East and we were doing a major maintenance cycle on all our aircraft. Combat deployments take a heavy toll on aircraft, so afterwards there is a ton of work for me and my people. One day we were testing an engine that had just had what you might call an overhaul. And it blew up. When a jet engine goes, there is a lot of metal in the air. Several of us got hit with shrapnel. I took several small pieces into my abdomen, chest, and right leg.
It took a couple of surgeries, but the doctors saved my life and my leg. But I suffered Neve damage. This made it so my leg doesn’t work properly anymore. Rehab helped, but I couldn’t pass my physical fitness to stay in the Navy. But the never damage also left me completely impotent. No more sex.
I’ll be honest, I did not take it well. I was out of Navy and felt like less than a man for the first time in my life. So I drank. Stupid. My wife didn’t cope well either. Can’t say that I blame her. It wasn’t long before she left. One of my kids was already in college, and the other two went with their mom. It took two years, but I sobered up. I get along well with my kids, but my marriage was over.
I have a really good job, working for a major airline. I oversee repairs on their planes at large airport. It pays really good. And since all my kids are now adults, and my ex has remarried, I have no child or spousal support. This leaves me with a lot of extra cash. But it also leaves me very lonely. This is where the escorts come in.
Even though I can’t have sex, I still feel a need for intimacy. I need to have something in my life. To touch someone, and to be touched. I tried massage, but that didn’t work for me. Dating was a bust for me. So I started seeing escorts. The first time I was scared to death. But I got used to it.
Working for an airline, I can get cheap or free flights easily. So I will go somewhere for the weekend, get a room, and hire a series of escorts to come visit me for an hour or two. Sometimes longer.
We sit, we talk. I tell them why I can’t have sex. We will often cuddle. Most of the time they will undress for me, or wear lingerie. I touch them. They touch me. Sometimes I will pay a lady to spend the night and just sleep with me. I have most of my meals with escorts on these trips.
At home, I see a few ladies as well. Many of these have become friends to me. Often I have dinner or lunches with these local ladies and they don’t want me to pay for their time. Some do, but many don’t.
For the first two years I was doing this I felt it was very odd. But over time it became such a regular part of my life that I find it normal. My time with these escorts is truly wonderful. I find real fulfillment in this part of my life. I get the kind of intimacy I crave, but without the stress of a full time relationship or the pressure of sex. Considering how often these ladies contact me, asking if I want to see them again, I assume that they also enjoy our time together. Or perhaps they just like the easy money (which does not offend me at all).
I just thought that your readers might enjoy a very different perspective on the client-provider dynamic. Thank you for your blog, I have found it very enlightening over the past few months.
—Chief Stan, USN (retired)
Thank you for your service, Chief, and for your story. I am very happy for you that you have found s piece of happiness through this rather interesting world of Consensual Transactional Sex (or not sex, in your case). I guess you are living proof that we clients really are paying for a lady’s time, and not for sex.