Escorts site, escort site, escort site. And more escort sites.
There are a bunch of them. While we have lost a few websites over the past year, there now seem to be more than ever. But a problem has emerged from all of this. “Escorts”.
So many of these websites, often in their very names, are focusing solely on escorts. And thus, alienating other types of Sex Workers. This is not a good thing.
“Sex Workers” encompasses many different types of providers. Not just escorts. And while escorts do make up the largest single category of Sex Worker, it isn’t good for the websites to be putting such a singular focus on them.
A large number of the websites that I look at for this blog directly mention being a site “for escorts” in their descriptions–and sometimes in their very names. Or their names imply a specific type of escort service (as is the case with the site “GFEdating”, which implies that all the ladies on it offer GFE services).
This all serves to create a certain type of barrier for Sex Workers looking to promote themselves on various sites.
I have personally heard from many FBSM and BDSM providers who feel totally left out of the discussion on these websites. They feel they are–at best–an afterthought. And much of this stems from a basic problem of the terms that websites are using to describe themselves. Instead of being inclusive of all types of Sex Workers, they are alienating many amazing providers by so prominently using the terms “escort” or “escort site”.
One of the most used websites in all of our community right now is Switter. And one of the reasons that it has so many users is its inclusivity. From the very beginning they used the term “Sex Worker” instead of just “escort”. As a result, all forms of Sex Workers have joined in to that site, as have the clients who desire them. With Switter there is no difference between a BDSM provider, an escort, an FBSM practitioner, or any other modality of Sex Work. All are welcome, and this has created a huge community.
And yet, the people behind Switter (Assembly4) made the mistake of highlighting the term “escort” when they created their advertising platform, Tryst. Recently they added menu options for FBSM and BDSM providers, but it was late in coming. I am a big fan of Tryst, and gave them a great review, but I heard from many non-escort Sex Workers who were put off by the prominent usage of the term “escort”. They felt that if they listed on Tryst, clients would assume that they provided escort services that they do not.
So I am taking this opportunity to call on all the websites that offer a platform for Sex Workers to promote themselves:
Please be more inclusive. Don’t call yourself “escort sites”. Use the term “Sex Workers” or “Adult Service Providers”, or some other inclusive term. Be a place for all types of providers, escorts, FBSM, FemDom, BDSM, Sensual Cuddling, etc., etc. Be a place for everyone, not just a portion of the community.